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DEALING WITH IT - UNDERSTANDING THE TEACHING OF DIVINE HETEROSEXUALITY

"The problem for Mormons who are gay or lesbian, I've found, is that we'd been raised to want and expect more than love from God. We've been conditioned to believe that we, somehow, are a 'chosen' people who will become exactly like God - vested in complete bodies of flesh and bone, capable of producing progeny eternally through a kind of Divine heterosexuality. We had been told that God loves us all, but only the worthy will become exactly like Him and His Eternal Bride...like Them, able to stay in their heterosexual relationship in heaven. The hidden message was that it would take more than the 'mere love of God' to become like Him and meet our reason for being. I began to see what I'd never seen before. I began to understand that we had, in a very specific and systematic way, accepted a concept of God that promoted our own self-hatred if our inner nature didn't add up to that concept.

"Because of that concept, we placed an awful guilt on ourselves that ran much deeper than most fundamentalists' guilt. We let this belief in our innate inability to become heterosexual gods block us from developing love and faith unto which we are all called to grow, especially any expecting to be 'Heirs of God.'"

 - from "Out of the Bishop's Closet" by Antonio A. Feliz, Arrow Square Press, Second Ed., 1992